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Arguments Are Just Love with Armor On
How shouting and silence become two dialects of the same plea: stay.
Jul 6
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Steiger Neils Bryke
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June 2025
Learning to Want Again
One man’s slow, quiet return to himself.
Jun 29
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Steiger Neils Bryke
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The Ache to Be Special
We don’t chase greatness because we’re greedy. We chase it because somewhere along the line, we thought it might save us.
Jun 22
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Steiger Neils Bryke
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Why You Shut Down When It Gets *Too Real*
And what to do when you’re finally ready to feel again
Jun 15
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Steiger Neils Bryke
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What Comes After the High
What your brain needs after the peak, and why ritual was made for it
Jun 8
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Steiger Neils Bryke
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Growing at the Speed of Fear
How to Stretch and Expand in a Way Your Nervous System Can Handle
Jun 1
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Steiger Neils Bryke
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May 2025
When Your Own Wiring Turns Against You, How Do You Stay Soft?
Why the beam of attention shorts, how that crackle feels in your skin and bones, and what it really takes to make it shine steady again
May 25
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Steiger Neils Bryke
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When Your Own Wiring Turns Against You, How Do You Stay Soft?
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The Ecology of Cool: When Being Chosen Stops Mattering
Why we fake it, how it breaks us, and the strange, wide‑open freedom on the other side.
May 18
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Steiger Neils Bryke
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The Split Second That Built a Lifetime of Overreaction
Tracing the rule that holds up your whole identity
May 11
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Steiger Neils Bryke
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Inside the Validation Vortex: Echo, Ask, Tell, Wait
What Socrates, stadiums, and your nervous system can teach you about validating feelings—without flattening into a feel-good emoji.
May 4
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Steiger Neils Bryke
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April 2025
“I’m Easygoing.”—The Tiny Phrase That Was Swallowing My Life
Why chronic agreeableness feels safe, how it wrecks the body, and what happens when you finally pick how you want your eggs
Apr 27
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Why the tiniest choice can feel like cliff‑diving
Fall 2012—An Anatomy of the Freeze, the Flinch, and Five Micro‑Moves That Rescued a Friendship on the Brink
Apr 20
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